The Delicate Dance of Courtship
The Krabby Patty Formula to Get Your Crush to Commit 🦀👇🏽
I compare the awkward phase of a situationship that resembles a relationship without exclusivity, to a game of Tug of War.
Pull too hard, and the other person lets go. Let go of your grip, and the other person falls back. We don’t want either. 🚫
What we want is an equal amount of effort on both ends. Someone who knows when to give us space and when to create closeness. We also want to be that someone in return to create equilibrium.
I don’t like mind games, so I try and stray from endorsing that concept in dating.
Instead, I like to think of courtship as an opportunity to demo the relationship without the pressure of commitment.
❌ However, a demo should never give the full experience of the relationship. ❌
It’s called a demo for a reason.
The mistake I see people making, is either giving too little or too much during this phase.
You don’t want a trailer that spoils the movie, but you also don’t want a trailer that leaves you confused about whether you want to watch it or not. 🎬
You want a trailer that paints a solid picture of the plot but leaves the twists and turns to imagination. 💭
Those are after all the most intriguing parts of the film and they should only be enjoyed in full when you commit to watching it.
I understand this is a delicate and nuanced balance to strike, which is why it can be so frustrating. But it’s important to learn the steps to this dance so it flows smoothly. 💃🏻
You wouldn’t expect to dance Salsa without taking lessons, so why is it that we expect to excel in dating without practice?
If you feel like you could benefit from the guidance of someone with a track record of success in love (dating quality people who match your level of commitment), to help you invite new patterns and new people into your life, then I might just be your person.