More Femininity and Ease, Less Perfectionism and Pain

A round up of my recent IG posts.:

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Confessions Of A Human Butterfly⁣ 🦋 ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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When I first moved to Texas years ago, I decorated my entire bedroom with butterflies. Not because I particularly like them—I actually shudder when I see them up close. But I love what they symbolize:⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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Evolution.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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Yesterday I claimed my title as a Dating and Intimacy Coach online, and it was very well-received by family, friends, and people I’ve never met alike. I have the utmost gratitude for each kind message and comment, but I’m not entirely surprised. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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I don’t mean that presumptuously.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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There has been plenty of doubt during every transition I’ve had in my life, both professionally and personally. But I’ve learned that when we’re brave enough to claim all parts of who we are, other people follow suit.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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Identity, like everything in life, is fleeting and impermanent.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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I used to feel bound to a certain way of being because I confused consistency with stagnancy. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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❌ But they are not one in the same.⁣ ❌⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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When we are committed to growth, change is simply part of the package.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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Don’t worry about how people will perceive your evolution. There is always room for the parts of you that emerge if you create it.⁣ 🌈 ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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Listen to the ideas that come to you. They come for a reason. Let them move through you and like the butterfly, surrender to the change life imposes and embrace the wings that come with it.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣


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We say we want a partner who challenges us.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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Someone on a similar path of growth to nudge us when we’ve gone complacent. 👉🏽⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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But when we put ourselves in that situation, the reality isn’t as smooth as we expected. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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Are we actually ready to hear about our self-sabotaging habits? 🤫⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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See, when you’re single and dating people in the beginning, it’s easy to play it cool. To show off an “I got this vibe.” 😎⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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It’s not until you coincide paths that you can’t hide your demons as easily. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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Lately, I’ve been growing through a lot of pain in my relationship. I’ve had a mirror held up to my face and it hasn’t been easy to look. 😔 ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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I’m accepting that there’s spiritual work that needs to make it to my to-do list more often. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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Since I started my business, my go-go lifestyle has disconnected me from some of my sensuality and ease, and that has inevitably shown up in my relationship.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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There was a lot of pattern disruption this weekend that took place with my partner. At first, we were both impulsive and defensive towards what the other had to say.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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Feedback isn’t easy to give, and it’s certainly not easy to hear. 🙅🏻‍♀️🙅🏽‍♂️⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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Our reactions led to arguments. But eventually, they evolved into frank conversations that needed to be had.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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Conversations that led to deep realizations and mutual evolution.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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It’s not easy to share this side of the story with you. To admit that I’m still figuring things out as I go. But these painful truths are just as much a part of the journey.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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You have to know what’s heavy in your life to let go of it. Sometimes knowing comes from listening to the people closest to you.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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